My wife and I have been together for eleven years. We have twins 2 years old and I have a 20 year old son in college. I have my own business and it’s doing well. I am 59 and my wife 33 years old.
I paid my mother-in-law $1,600 a month to help our twins for a year. Also, my wife hired her in the salon for a year. No career ends well for her mother’s desire to regain her daughter’s power.
My wife has two brothers. one person has very few and the other has no children good business But he never helped with his mother’s expenses. Moreover, my mother-in-law did not find a job. but raise a dog with an income
When I turned 60, I explained that I wouldn̵7;t be signing any leases next year (January) and that I would donate $500 a month in rent, but the rest would come from her mother and brother.
while everyone agrees No one did anything or tried any further. And I’m worried about falling amnesia will begin And I’ll be in the lease again and stuck with the rent again.
I have three children and a wife in college too. and had to cut the rope
What do you recommend?
59 year old son-in-law
You don’t have to deal with your mother-in-law’s expectations or that with her direct deposit. You only have to manage your own.
Sometimes the best way to get the results you want is to take the path with the least resistance and do nothing. Perhaps the mother-in-law and the children She may be busy planning a new lease and agreeing on how to pay the rent. Perhaps they relied on the principle “If it’s not broken, don’t repair it” and gently wait for direct deposit.
As Jane Austen wrote in “Persuasion” (1817): “Never underestimate the power of a well-written letter.” Remind your mother-in-law about the last day of the lease. And tell her that you’ll be supervising her about the new deal in writing. Inform the landlord that payments will end on the last day of the tenancy. and a copy of your mother-in-law in your letter
You may find it difficult to set your standards of generosity. and then adjust that after many years. But it seems that you have tried to help your mother-in-law in various ways. But none of these methods work without your own fault. She works in your wife’s beauty salon. She was compensated for helping your twins. And you followed that up by paying her rent.
You are now tensing new muscles. When you draw a line in the sand and stick to it It will be easier the next time you do it. And so on.
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