Dear Abby: One of the things I always do with my parents and siblings’ family is to play the piano. My 80-year-old father. fond to hear me play I am a good pianist and like to play difficult pianos.
during their last visit While I was trying to play the Warsaw Concerto for my father. My family is talking through my grand piano. My granddaughter is chasing my granddaughter through the living room. and sister-in-law filming I am very busy and distracted. I think they are rude and disrespectful.
How can I get them to stop this behavior without sounding like an idiot?
Serious musicians in COLORADO
Dear musicians: When you want to give dad a concert You must entertain your parents in addition to your siblings and children.
Dear Abby: My husband has a close friend that I will call “Al” (we are like family).
in the past five months Al has seen two women and slept with them both. Nobody knows about the other person. He admitted that one of them thought they had a strong relationship. But he refused to choose between the two. He planned the same day to compare them!
I feel bad for them and want to tell them what they did wrong. My husband insisted that I should not interfere. Al kept saying he wanted us to meet these women. And I can’t imagine having to shut up. What to do?
Right or wrong in Virginia?
Learn right or wrong: Al is dishonest and lacks integrity. He might be a close friend. But that doesn’t mean you have to be involved in the game he’s playing. How to avoid denying meeting them?
Dear Abby: My husband, 30, passed away eight months ago. It’s our second marriage. And we each have two grown children.
Since the funeral, I only see his children and grandchildren when they need something like college tuition or car repairs. (I know it’s going to happen.) They included me in the event that needed a gift. Maybe it’s because I’m still kind
The other three grandparents were very involved, which was fine, but I felt uncomfortable and disinterested. My husband would be very disappointed.
How should I deal with this?
Howling Widows in Michigan
Dear Widow: Deal with it by facing reality.
If you’re invited to an event you don’t want to attend, send a ‘Kid’ or ‘Grandchild’ card to congratulate you. If someone asks you why, answer honestly. Tell the people you know your only one time attendance is the one who wants the gift. Then be quiet, humorous, and listen.
It is important that you focus on moving forward in your life and doing what makes you happy. above all Don’t nurture a relationship that you feel is worthless.
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